Dear Annie: My husband doesnât spend time with me anymore, should we split?

Dear Annie: My husband doesn’t spend time with me anymore. We have been together for eight years and married for three. We were inseparable most of that time, but, all of a sudden, he doesn’t want me around. He says most married people hardly ever hang out. He tells me the honeymoon is over.

I have tried everything. At marriage counseling, he puts on a show and tries to make me look bad. He mostly ignores my calls and texts when he leaves, and when he does respond, it’s very nasty.

I’m not sure if he is cheating or not. I don’t think I want to be married to him anymore. How do I handle this? Is asking for a divorce reasonable? How do you do that? — Still Unsure

Dear Unsure: Are you telling the marriage counselor that you feel he puts on a show and tries to make you look bad? It is important to be completely honest during your counseling sessions or else they won’t work. Once you have said all of that during your therapy sessions, and you still want a divorce, then you can most certainly ask for one. Honesty, love and communication are all pillars for a healthy marriage, and you deserve a man who understands that.

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